Chores. We all have to do them, and most of us dislike them. Recently, I sat down with the boys to create a chore chart because it seemed chores were not getting finished, or they were only completed when mom went into “rage mode.” We’ve used the chore chart below for a few weeks now, and I think we found a system that works for us!
I always thought having a chore chart would help, but I never followed through with implementing and committing to a chart until now. Before getting to the chart, I’d like to share a few things I’ve learned over the past few weeks.
We worked on the chart together to decide which chores should be daily, weekly, and monthly. With a clear list of chores, the boys know what we expect. As a result, they whine less and understand that if they want to hang with their friends or use their computers/tablets, they need to have their chores finished first.
Learning life skills
Now that the boys have the chart, they are learning to become more responsible. They are learning valuable skills that will continue the rest of their lives. I had friends my freshman year of college who, before setting foot on campus, never had to vacuum, scrub a toilet, or do laundry. The transition to college/adult life was not easy for them. I don’t want this for my boys. My boys will learn to be men who are as comfortable with a football as they are with a scrub-brush.
We’ve learned recently that our boys have no sense of time. They can lose themselves for hours in their computers, out fishing, or playing with friends. Chores and practicing can always wait: there’s fun to be had! Now with the chart, chores, practicing, and homework come first. There are no excuses. They may not play, game, or hang until their work is finished.
Value of money
For a week of completed chores and practicing, we pay the boys $5. This isn’t a huge amount, but if they don’t do what is expected of them, they lose the $5. If they chose to skip practicing, that’s fine, but they lose their $5. There is a positive reward for doing what is expected. Currently, they are both saving their earnings to purchase items on their wish lists. Because they have to make these extra purchases on their own, they are learning the value of money. As a result, they realize that impulse purchases do not help them meet their goals.
No more mom “rage mode”
This one is for me. My life is so much easier! I’m no longer a broken record repeating the same plea to do chores. The boys now listen the first time or complete their chores on their own. I no longer have to go into “rage mode” (yell) to get things done around the house because the boys know exactly what they need to do in order to do the things they want. So far, it is delightful!
The chore chart I created is an editable .pdf because the boys’ chores will change depending on the week and time of year. Once spring arrives, outdoor chores will be added to the list. Do all chores end up on the list every week? No. For example, emptying the dishwasher is second nature to the boys since they’ve been doing it for so long, so I didn’t add it to the chart. If they revolt and begin to forget the dishwasher, I’ll add it. Having the ability to switch chores quickly will help us stay focused and organized.
Chore Chart Size: 4.25″x 5.5″ – Two Charts on one 8.5″ x 11″ sheet of paper.
There are two ways you may use this chart.
1 – Download, print, and write-in chores.
2 – Download, edit the .pdf form using Adobe Reader, and print. If you choose to use this option and want the fonts to match, before opening the form, you will need to download and install Bebas Neue (print) and/or Lobster (script).
I hope this chart works as well for you as it has for me! Which chores are the most hated in your house? Around here it’s landmine patrol!